They proceed according to the husband’s fantasies. Having been paid for her services, the wife will give herself to the experience with a new zest, and the husband will in turn respond similarly.
If the game goes well, it should not only enliven their relationship, but also serve to play out each of their deeper repressed fantasies. By giving vent to these fantasies, they break through the block that has kept their sexual relationship at a stalemate. These fantasies are attached to repressed feelings of anger having to do with early-childhood sexual traumas, and may therefore include “rough” talk or action. After the sexual part of the game is finished, the couple should talk about how it felt to play the game, and what that says about the way they had related up to that point. They may repeat the game as often as they like—or even try a reversal of the game in which the husband plays the prostitute and stripper.
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