Players: Husband and wife.

Activists: Both.

Setting: Home or hotel.

Aim: Get couple in touch with unconscious narcissism.

Game Plan: This game is best if the couple can put a mirror somewhere near their bed, on the headboard, on the ceiling, at the foot of the bed; or they can check into a hotel that features such mirrors.

The man and woman get undressed and lie across the bed, their arms around each other, and look at themselves in the mirror. Then they ask:

“Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who’s the fairest couple of them all?”

They begin foreplay, fondling one another, and again turn to the mirror.

“Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who’s the fairest couple of them all?”

They begin making love, and in the midst of it turn to the mirror again.

“Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who’s the fairest couple of them all?”

*120/196/1*

They proceed according to the husband’s fantasies. Having been paid for her services, the wife will give herself to the experience with a new zest, and the husband will in turn respond similarly.

If the game goes well, it should not only enliven their relationship, but also serve to play out each of their deeper repressed fantasies. By giving vent to these fantasies, they break through the block that has kept their sexual relationship at a stalemate. These fantasies are attached to repressed feelings of anger having to do with early-childhood sexual traumas, and may therefore include “rough” talk or action. After the sexual part of the game is finished, the couple should talk about how it felt to play the game, and what that says about the way they had related up to that point. They may repeat the game as often as they like—or even try a reversal of the game in which the husband plays the prostitute and stripper.

*95/196/1*

After undressing his wife, the husband takes her by hand into the bathroom and helps her into a hot bath and bathes her (slowly and lovingly) with a sponge. He then helps her out and dries her (again, slowly and lovingly), then leads her to the bed. She lies face down, and he begins the massage.

He lifts one leg and holds the foot up to his mouth and sucks on each toe, one at a time. He asks, “Is that all right?” If the answer is yes, he continues. (Should she say no, he will skip the rest of this part.) If he continues, he licks the arch of the foot. Then he lightly bites the heel. Then he gently lays that leg down, lifts the other, and sucks on each toe of that foot. Then he licks that arch, lightly bites the heel, and gently lays the leg down.

Next he lifts the right arm and holds the hand up to his mouth. He sucks the fingers and thumb of the right hand. He asks, “Is that all right?” (If the answer is yes, he continues; if no, he skips this part.) If he continues, he licks the palm of the hand and bites the heel. Then he gently lays that arm down and lifts the left hand, sucking each of the fingers and thumb. He then licks the palm, bites the heel and gently lays the hand down.

*70/196/1*

Players: Master (passive husband) and maid (aggressive wife).

Activist: Wife. Setting: Home.

Aim: The wife seduces the husband in a deliberately provocative way designed to provoke both his sexuality and his active, rather than passive, aggression.

Game Plan: The husband comes home from work (or from wherever he has been during the day) to find his wife wearing a maid’s uniform with a short black skirt and white apron.

“What’s with the uniform?” he may ask.

“It’s a maid’s uniform,” she replies, mysteriously.

He goes into the bedroom to change into something more comfortable and then sits in his easy chair to watch the evening news. As he does so, his wife crosses in front of him and stoops down, with her rear toward him, to open the bottom drawer of a desk and straighten out its contents. Lo and behold, she is not wearing any panties!

*45/196/1*

Having said that, let me add that this book is not a sexual panacea. If you use it according to instructions, and are willing to persevere even when it seems as if nothing is happening (even when, in the beginning, it seems silly, pointless, hopeless, upsetting, or disgusting to continue), then you may well achieve results. These are sure to be gradual, even though there may be an initial upsurge of fascination and joy—as happens in the beginning of most any endeavor.

Finally, these games presume the practice of “safe sex”— sex in which the couples have an exclusive relationship or are using proper precautions to avoid sexual diseases.

Bon voyage!

*20/196/1*