Living in the moment — being one with what’s happening to you right at this minute – is very difficult. It is important to appreciate where we are at and what blessings we have.
An example of this could be when we are at the hairdresser’s and our minds are racing ahead to what we will do when we leave. We should stay right in the present and enjoy the sensation of being pampered.
While we can all complain about our lives in some way, we should step back a little and realise how lucky we are to be living at peace. In our part of the world, beautiful gardens and parks surround us. The sun shines most of the time and we have freedom to discuss the political events of the day without getting thrown into jail. We have access to the church of our choice.
There is so much that we have to be thankful for, let’s not talk constantly about what is wrong. The media doesn’t help by highlighting gloom and doom. We do have choices: we can decide not to watch or read what distresses us.
We also have the education to voice our opinions in a letter to those whom we feel should know. Whether we decide to use it or not, we have that power. Many people get depressed and dismayed at the state of the world and feel helpless to change anything. There will never be a perfect world, for if there was, we would lose our opportunity to do good.
On a more personal level we can easily become discontented with our lot,’We don’t have enough money.” Our teenage children are behaving badly towards us.’ ‘Our partner takes us for granted.. The gripes go on and on. It is up to us to do our best and recognise our opportunities to make a difference in our world – a smile, a letter, a telephone call, a loving communication.
Clinically the answer is to find the cause of the discontent. This problem is approached by collecting a total history to search for clues. I would check the chi energy as fire deficiency also indicates unhappiness. Vitamin B complex supplement would help as people who do not have sufficient vital energy show discontent. See your therapist for a check up.
A patient complained to me about her husband’s snoring. Apparently it was very loud and disturbed her sleep. She would toss and turn, getting more and more annoyed while he slept on blissfully. I told her to turn the irritating situation into a positive one. ‘Think how lucky you are to have him safely alongside you,’ I said. ‘His snoring is part of him, along with his loving and his caring for you.’ So she bought herself a pair of earplugs for really noisy nights, but most times she just ’switches herself off’ and goes to sleep first.
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